Family and couple subjects hopefully with an educational twist. I read the book «The Way of the Superior Man» as it has been much talked about isikutuvastus – miks ja millal seda vaja on? and I liked it. It is amazing how David Deida has gained such an insight into women and what they really want.
It was also very pleasant how the author described different actions of men which are usually frowned upon as manly and neccessary in order for women to be happy with their partners. For the sexual passion to remain in time, there need to be two polar energies: masculine and feminine. Masculine men like to watch war movies and sports because it represents freeing oneself from the capture of the opponent. For men mission, competition and stretching the limits are all forms of ectasy.
Female sexuality is fuelled by seach for love so they watch romantic comedies, read romance novels and talk to their girlfriends about relationships. Being true to oneself also means that a masculine man and his partner have to acknowledge that more important than the intimate relationship is the man’s mission whatever it may be. It is a higher cause which makes him do things and he should not be held back. So his partner should be happy over the 30 minutes of undivided attention after which he has to go rather than nagging about his lack of attention all the time making him feel guilty and feeling guilty herself. The author gives certain recommendations how to be a masculine man. For example he encourages him to proceed with the things he has always wanted to do but has postponed for better times to come. A feminine woman need his man to have a mission which he is committed to.
This is manly and sexually appealing as well. Do not shut down when you are hurting or things have not gone your way. Do not change your mind to please your woman. This does not mean that you specifically do opposite her will but that you consider arguments on both sides and then decide. Your woman needs to feel that you have a backbone which means in times of need she can rely on you to lead the way. Overcome fears step by step instead of settling for less. In love, go as deep as you can to understand and feel your woman.
Don’t give up half way there because of her moodswings and your frustration that you just don’t understand these creatures from Venus. Chores and different obligations are important but they don’t increase love or freedom or self-concsiousness so don’t overemphasize them and make other things priority. You woman’s bad mood dissolves when you hug her with love. The author also gives recommendations on how to treat a woman. Women do not lie, their truth just varies much more in time than yours. When they say something out loud, it is a momentary feeling and passes at the same instance. Instead of saying «You look ugly when you frown,» let her know that she looks beautiful when she smiles.